“For the first time, she is part of the ecosystem without needing to be its spine.” This is such a cinematic apt ending💕👌🏻 as an eldest daughter, it made me teary eyed
Wow Lina, this is so powerful and it's my life! I've sometimes wondered why I feel so tuned into the pain of others and maybe it's because I've been so distanced from my needs that all I can hear is the cry from outside of me. Reading this, I know I've almost waited for opportunities to care for people as a way of feeling loved/useful/validated. But now, I'm slowly changing and feel less need to fix either anyone else or myself. I feel something like a kind of energy growing in me...not sure what will happen! Thank you for this stunning piece of writing ❤️ Karen
girl i don’t know if you’ve watched this but if you haven’t please do, The Joy Luck Club, i watched it yesterday and i’m still in shock of how beautifully violent it portrayed generational trauma that passes down through mothers and daughters <33
When reading this, I could not help but notice how much this aligns to the book 'Women Who Run with the Wolves'. It just reaffirms how much I think every woman should read it!! What a beautiful article❤️
What a beautiful writing piece, Lina. Being the eldest daughter, i just not found this profoundly relatable but it also made me feel heard, seen and understood. You write so beautifully. ♥️
Something I’ve felt internally and haven’t been able to voice. Thank you so much for sharing.
I’m an oldest daughter and it’s taken me years to continue working to get out of the cycle. Thank you for putting to words so beautifully what I’ve felt my whole life.
I dreamt last night my soul was tired. This AM, reading this feels like an attack of truth from deep in my consciousness. Thank you for the raw reflection of lived pain with healing in progress. Phenomenal!
“For the first time, she is part of the ecosystem without needing to be its spine.” This is such a cinematic apt ending💕👌🏻 as an eldest daughter, it made me teary eyed
thank you so so much !!
Wow Lina, this is so powerful and it's my life! I've sometimes wondered why I feel so tuned into the pain of others and maybe it's because I've been so distanced from my needs that all I can hear is the cry from outside of me. Reading this, I know I've almost waited for opportunities to care for people as a way of feeling loved/useful/validated. But now, I'm slowly changing and feel less need to fix either anyone else or myself. I feel something like a kind of energy growing in me...not sure what will happen! Thank you for this stunning piece of writing ❤️ Karen
so happy to hear this and beyond proud of you, sending so much love your way <333 thank you for leaving such a beautiful comment
This read me to filth. I’m the oldest daughter of an oldest daughter of an oldest daughter and the first grandchild.
girl i don’t know if you’ve watched this but if you haven’t please do, The Joy Luck Club, i watched it yesterday and i’m still in shock of how beautifully violent it portrayed generational trauma that passes down through mothers and daughters <33
Hmmm ok I didn’t know that movie was about generational trauma. I’ll check it out thank you
Amazingly written, delicately addressed the struggles and fortes of eldest daughters
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lina, you destroyed us with that.
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Yes. All of this.
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I don’t know how you did it, but you seem to have written from inside my experience. It’s absolutely uncanny to see myself in this. Thanks.
<33!
When reading this, I could not help but notice how much this aligns to the book 'Women Who Run with the Wolves'. It just reaffirms how much I think every woman should read it!! What a beautiful article❤️
immediately added to my reading wishlist thank you for the recommendation!!<3
This was such a powerful piece to write. Being an elder daughter, It shifted something in me. Thank you for writing 🩷
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What a beautiful writing piece, Lina. Being the eldest daughter, i just not found this profoundly relatable but it also made me feel heard, seen and understood. You write so beautifully. ♥️
thank you thank you !<3 so happy my writing reached you
Wow just wow
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you have literally broken my heart into a thousand pieces and I am glad that you did
oh wow wow <3!!
“Burdens are abandoned.”
Something I’ve felt internally and haven’t been able to voice. Thank you so much for sharing.
I’m an oldest daughter and it’s taken me years to continue working to get out of the cycle. Thank you for putting to words so beautifully what I’ve felt my whole life.
i’m so grateful my words could make even the slightest impact, i see you truly, and i’m so happy and proud of the work you’ve done for yourself <3
this was such a great read. so many angles & i love how you blend narrative & science!
thank you so much basil!!<3
You destroyed me with this. Thank you.
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I dreamt last night my soul was tired. This AM, reading this feels like an attack of truth from deep in my consciousness. Thank you for the raw reflection of lived pain with healing in progress. Phenomenal!
really grateful to be able to connect with you on that level!! thank you <3