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Bougie Hippie's avatar

⚡️half the time you don’t even know if you’re turned on or just performing it. if you’re wet or just well-trained. pleasure starts to feel like a costume you’re supposed to wear convincingly. 🫦. So good.

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lina's avatar

ahhh thank you <3!

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Bek Mae's avatar

Absolutely brilliant right! I loved all of it. What an incredible piece of writing… so important now more than ever when everything is covered up and glossed over with only fans etc … it really has got me thinking, thank you lina 🤍

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wild honeysuckle's avatar

I think this essay lays out so much of what’s often felt but rarely said. It was all very sharp and incredibly important. Thank you for writing it!

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lina's avatar

thank YOU for reading it!! thank you <3

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milk & honey's avatar

this si so good and powerful !!

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lina's avatar

thank you <3!

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Ally's avatar

Powerful! ✨🌹

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Sam Stephens 💗's avatar

*immediately likes and subscribes*

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lina's avatar

ily thank you

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aditi ◡̈'s avatar

AMAZING!!! i wrote a recent essay about sexuality and women’s bodies and reading this opened up a whole new layer! beautifully written!!

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Bougie Hippie's avatar

🖤

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Danielle M.M.R.'s avatar

Restacked with one of your amazing quotes from this publication

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I am going through the craziest phase right now and this was wonderful to read. I am afraid this amazing part of my life will be lost soon - so I am documenting it (mainly for myself but sharing on Substack as well) while lasts and I love riding this wave of PRIMAL desire! I never knew that we could be numbed to desire 💁🏼‍♀️ makes sense after reading this 😘🤭🥳😈🫠

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lina's avatar

ahhh so happy you’re deciding to document it! and happy you found this post during this haha <3!!

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Anya Gardener's avatar

This! Remember "Sex (I'm a...)" by Berlin?

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lina's avatar

ahh!! perfect reference song

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MindWise's avatar

There's a lot of depth in what you write. I think that when it comes to sexuality, a lot of the difficulties can be solved when two people develop a monogamous relationship, are accepting of each others faults and are willing to grow together - where there's a will theres a way.

But if, as an individual, one enters into a sexual relationship thinking "this is what I want for me, sexually", its really just self-love and I think that is where people can become disappointed.

To put it simply, good sex is an outgrowth of a good relationship (whereas seeking good sex and hoping for a relationship will fail probably more often than not).

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rae 𖤓's avatar

this reminds of Three A.M.—the movie evelyn hugo made about patricia and mark. how sex can be about love or power. that (part of) the reason patricia loves mark is because she makes her orgasm. it challenged the “women have sex for intimacy, men have sex for pleasure culture.” i remember agreeing to their concept so much and i’m so happy that you talked about it in this essay because… it’s so real.

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Second Glance's avatar

Great point made! You encapsulated the whole message so well!

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lexandria's avatar

this is so insanely powerful and I will be thinking about what you wrote for weeks and months to come. I'm an anthro student and often times I write papers about this very topic and you effortlessly put many of my unaccessible thoughts into a profound and palatable paper. I'm still reeling I think, but just know I loved this. so much.

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Lara's avatar

This essay is brilliant. You worded every complicated factor of women and their relationship with sexuality in a perfect concise sense. This was a fantastic read.

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Stone Age 🌸's avatar

Amazing 🌸🌸🌸🌸

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bee's avatar

A beautiful combination of well thought of and well written.

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