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Bougie Hippie's avatar

⚡️half the time you don’t even know if you’re turned on or just performing it. if you’re wet or just well-trained. pleasure starts to feel like a costume you’re supposed to wear convincingly. 🫦. So good.

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lina's avatar

ahhh thank you <3!

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Bek Mae's avatar

Absolutely brilliant right! I loved all of it. What an incredible piece of writing… so important now more than ever when everything is covered up and glossed over with only fans etc … it really has got me thinking, thank you lina 🤍

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wild honeysuckle's avatar

I think this essay lays out so much of what’s often felt but rarely said. It was all very sharp and incredibly important. Thank you for writing it!

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lina's avatar

thank YOU for reading it!! thank you <3

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aditi ◡̈'s avatar

AMAZING!!! i wrote a recent essay about sexuality and women’s bodies and reading this opened up a whole new layer! beautifully written!!

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milk & honey's avatar

this si so good and powerful !!

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lina's avatar

thank you <3!

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Ally's avatar

Powerful! ✨🌹

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Sam Stephens 💗's avatar

*immediately likes and subscribes*

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lina's avatar

ily thank you

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Bougie Hippie's avatar

🖤

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Danielle M.M.R.'s avatar

Restacked with one of your amazing quotes from this publication

❣️🫶🏻🙌🏻❣️

I am going through the craziest phase right now and this was wonderful to read. I am afraid this amazing part of my life will be lost soon - so I am documenting it (mainly for myself but sharing on Substack as well) while lasts and I love riding this wave of PRIMAL desire! I never knew that we could be numbed to desire 💁🏼‍♀️ makes sense after reading this 😘🤭🥳😈🫠

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lina's avatar

ahhh so happy you’re deciding to document it! and happy you found this post during this haha <3!!

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Anya Gardener's avatar

This! Remember "Sex (I'm a...)" by Berlin?

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lina's avatar

ahh!! perfect reference song

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MindWise's avatar

There's a lot of depth in what you write. I think that when it comes to sexuality, a lot of the difficulties can be solved when two people develop a monogamous relationship, are accepting of each others faults and are willing to grow together - where there's a will theres a way.

But if, as an individual, one enters into a sexual relationship thinking "this is what I want for me, sexually", its really just self-love and I think that is where people can become disappointed.

To put it simply, good sex is an outgrowth of a good relationship (whereas seeking good sex and hoping for a relationship will fail probably more often than not).

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Soul Journey's avatar

I 100% with you from a societal point of view. However , I also came to realize that sex is the most intimate thing two people can do and at the end of the day it’s an energy exchange which can be either: beautiful and transcending , almost a spiritual experience between souls OR purely physical - like scratching an itch or just getting another dopamine hit. If one looks for the latter it almost always ends up being disappointing and unfulfilling (at least for women). So I really encourage women not to look for a quick fix that patriarchal society enforces on us and play the system that way. Because if you want a “spiritual experience” it has to be mindful sex (from both sides), with someone who sees you more than an object of desire, with someone who wants to know your soul and not just your body

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rae 𖤓's avatar

this reminds of Three A.M.—the movie evelyn hugo made about patricia and mark. how sex can be about love or power. that (part of) the reason patricia loves mark is because she makes her orgasm. it challenged the “women have sex for intimacy, men have sex for pleasure culture.” i remember agreeing to their concept so much and i’m so happy that you talked about it in this essay because… it’s so real.

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Second Glance's avatar

Great point made! You encapsulated the whole message so well!

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Diego Fraire's avatar

Wow that was an interesting read, definitely made me cross discuss with my ideas of sex as a man, in recent years that I’ve learned more about the female body it’s been eye opening that piv sex most of the times doesn’t lead to a female orgasm and that some help is needed or more focus should be dedicated to her. My early years of discovering sex was guided by porn where the biggest dick made a woman look like the exorcist and it still lingers to this day even though I haven’t actively watched “real” porn in 3ish years and when I do it’s more on the amateur side of things like real couples but the thought of me not being enough still bothers me because that early idea of sex formed a shitty pillar in my brain that I’m the only source of pleasure for her and i hate it because the more logical side knows that it’s not enough and that I need a lil help (toys and focus more on her) and that it’s ok because at the end she still chooses me to be on that journey and the that silly piece of vibrating rubber is just a means of transportation not a threat. I’m sorry if Im rambling about something that may not even have anything to do with what the essay is about or I’m being part of the issue by interjecting my man problems but it just got me thinking about that.

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Diego Fraire's avatar

Wow that was an interesting read, definitely made me cross discuss with my ideas of sex as a man, in recent years that I’ve learned more about the female body it’s been eye opening that piv sex most of the times doesn’t lead to a female orgasm and that some help is needed or more focus should be dedicated to her. My early years of discovering sex was guided by porn where the biggest dick made a woman look like the exorcist and it still lingers to this day even though I haven’t actively watched “real” porn in 3ish years and when I do it’s more on the amateur side of things like real couples but the thought of me not being enough still bothers me because that early idea of sex formed a shitty pillar in my brain that I’m the only source of pleasure for her and i hate it because the more logical side knows that it’s not enough and that I need a lil help (toys and focus more on her) and that it’s ok because at the end she still chooses me to be on that journey and the that silly piece of vibrating rubber is just a means of transportation not a threat. I’m sorry if Im rambling about something that may not even have anything to do with what the essay is about or I’m being part of the issue by interjecting my man problems but it just got me thinking about that.

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Diego Fraire's avatar

Wow that was an interesting read, definitely made me cross discuss with my ideas of sex as a man, in recent years that I’ve learned more about the female body it’s been eye opening that piv sex most of the times doesn’t lead to a female orgasm and that some help is needed or more focus should be dedicated to her. My early years of discovering sex was guided by porn where the biggest dick made a woman look like the exorcist and it still lingers to this day even though I haven’t actively watched “real” porn in 3ish years and when I do it’s more on the amateur side of things like real couples but the thought of me not being enough still bothers me because that early idea of sex formed a shitty pillar in my brain that I’m the only source of pleasure for her and i hate it because the more logical side knows that it’s not enough and that I need a lil help (toys and focus more on her) and that it’s ok because at the end she still chooses me to be on that journey and the that silly piece of vibrating rubber is just a means of transportation not a threat. I’m sorry if Im rambling about something that may not even have anything to do with what the essay is about or I’m being part of the issue by interjecting my man problems but it just got me thinking about that.

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