If I ever read an article that summed up my life’s experience this is the one. I feel seen, comforted, and more encouraged to make the changes I need. I need to chart a better plan and reachable goals for myself
I don't typically think about having an “inner child.” But for an exercise after reading, I did. And now I feel my inner child is not the one holding me back. She is disappointed. She’s the one confused. She had so many dreams and goals and desires that all fell through due to this, that or the other. Excuses and possibly undiagnosed ADHD. I need to think deeper about this but I am so happy to have read your article and to have been given a shot of clarity.
hi ginna! thank you for such a lovely comment, i’m so happy to have reached you like this! i feel like the concept of an inner child is very different depending on the person, you can take it scientifically, you can take it spiritually, you can take it whichever way you feels right to you :) i’m so happy to hear this is something that you tried, and that it made even the smallest impact. i completely understand the struggles of the extra layer of difficulty that comes with being neurodivergent, especially being neurodivergent and going undiagnosed for so many years. it’s like learning a whole new part of yourself, even though it’s been with you this whole time. thank you again for taking the time to read this article with such intention <33
Hello Lina, thank you for your kind response. I don't know for sure about neurodivergence, but it would explain some things, even with my late mother. There are other issues with subtle symptoms that mimic others, such as mood swings and bouts of depression, which can also lead to the behaviors you wrote about. It's wonderful to find articles like yours that show a deep, sympathetic understanding. I look forward to reading more.
Thank you so much for this Lina, it's exactly where I am and it's scary. I'm so keen and ready to let go of old responses, but it's in those responses where safety has always been and I don't know where I'm going without them. I did feel very frustrated yesterday when I felt really anxious for choosing to do something I wanted to do, but felt I'd be criticised by someone else. If I stop pleasing those people where will that leave me? Will they reject me? It's all very well talking about nervous system regulation, but the truth is that change is terrifying in terms of bodily sensations, at least it is with me! Really grateful for your incisive and perceptive writing...Karen 💛
hi, karen :) i agree completely! it’s really easy to talk about the theory behind things and to read the books and the research, but living it is such a completely different experience, and like you said, sometimes making choices that is the better choice, that is the choice that’s going to help you, will feel like making a bad one. it’s so hard to get unstuck from these patterns, but it’s not impossible and the fact that you took a step to choose something for you, even if it meant being criticised, is so huge and such a beautiful thing to hear <3<3
It’s a balance. Just breathe, breathe, and breathe again and do it. I feel guilty sometimes when I want to do something but providing it’s a balance between work and play or our plan’s v their plan’s. We should not feel guilty or feel anxious and I have felt this way sometimes also Karen. It’s not nice and it’s seldom fair. We can’t always give our entire selfs away, we need to keep some of us and that includes sometimes doing the things we want/ need to do. Decent people should recognise this and accept that we all need some us time and we do not need to feel bad about it. 🌹
It's a very deeply ingrained survival response and although I know intellectually I've got as much right as anyone else to have my needs met, my body often panics or feels anxious. Sitting with that anxiety is so hard, but necessary. Thank you for your kind words 🙏
Ooof. That hit home. Over the years I’ve consumed much of Gabor Mate’s material & Bessel van der Kolk. Trying to turn the key myself on a thousand ideas, but it’s a heavy key and although I want to turn it, so far I’ve never found the courage/ strength. Nicely written again Lina.
the fact that you are trying to “turn the key” is courage and strength in itself. reading and learning the theory behind things is its own step, but living and experiencing it is completely different and so so much harder. it’s not a straight line, it’s a loop, a spiral of making progress, then taking two steps back, then feeling like you’re going back to old ways, and then suddenly feeling like you’re making progress again. it’s a whole up and down journey, but a journey nonetheless! <33
Hi Lina, as many others wrote, this piece hit the center piece of many different pain points. I was wondering how to face our fears though, because it’s so easy to blame ourselves, to be angry and confused, not knowing even who we want to be because the pressure of achieving (without meaning) always won. How do we face the fears? How do we talk to our inner selves? For example, I know I want to create, it has always been my passion. Thousand of ideas left unwritten or unanswered, because my parents forced me into med school saying that art would have never paid off, and that I would have never been a good artist cause I didn’t have the light in me to become one. How can I face something like that? I’m now in my fourth year of med school and it’s hella difficult to finish while aspiring for something different
you’re so right, it’s so easy to blame ourselves. if anything, it’s too easy. and i relate to you a lot. i was really eager and excited to pursue something creative for my degree. i had so many passions, painting, creative writing, but same as you, my parents forced me to pick something that was strictly academic. and although i did have an interest in science, the thought of going down the pipeline that a lot of my peers were going down, either transitioning into medical school or going into lab research, just wasn’t something that felt right to me. but i did finish the degree in the end, i think i did it more for myself than for their approval by the end of it.
everyone’s paths in life are so incredibly different and so incredibly unique. everyone’s experiences, what people have been through, are so unique to themselves. of course, there’s a lot of shared experiences, but the details and the nuances are individually yours. so the way that you face your fears, the way that you talk to your inner self, is also something that is incredibly uniquely yours.
but i can tell you how i did this through what personally worked for me. while i was studying my biochemistry degree, the areas i focused on were mostly to do with the brain and how our thoughts and actions and everything have an origin. i was really interested in finding the mechanics behind what makes us, us.
as i mentioned in the article, biologically, your inner child is made up from your limbic system, which stores emotional memories from early life, your prefrontal cortex, which is the grown-up part of you, the part that handles rational thinking and decision-making, and your default mode network, which is sort of like your sense of self. it’s involved in self-referential thinking and can often become overactive when we dwell on the past or the future.
the way i first came across the concept of the inner child wasn’t through a self-help book or anything spiritual. it was through science. and i became really curious about why my past experiences still affected me today, and about neuroplasticity, how your brain rewires and learns and creates habits and breaks habits. i think this gave me a very interesting platform to start exploring spirituality, because it made sense for the way that i process information. i have adhd, and i’m also just, in general, a very curious person who loves to know ins and outs on the ways that things work.
so when i went down the pipeline of spirituality and mindfulness and taoism etc., i found that when it comes down to it, all these things are interconnected in such a beautiful way. spiritually, your inner child is that version of you that you hold within yourself that’s still projecting past experiences into the present. and scientifically and biologically, it’s those areas in your brain that are still wired from those past events or past experiences.
there are many ways to begin inner child work. the most evidence-based methods that i can recommend are reparenting practices, which is the one that resonated with me the most. it’s basically speaking to yourself with kindness and love, the way that you would speak to a loved one or a close friend. for example, just saying out loud, you’re safe now, you don’t have to prove anything. or for me more specifically, when i catch myself thinking something rooted in the past, for example, oh, i shouldn’t send that message, maybe they’ll think i’m too much, i will verbally say out loud, no, you’re not too much. it’s okay to send that message. don’t worry. things like that.
another evidence-based method for inner child work is guided imagery or visualisation. it involves visualising your younger self and offering comfort, which activates the parts of your brain involved in empathy, memory, and self-compassion. there’s a lot of research to back this up. but again, like i said, everyone is so different. and for me, i think my adhd makes it hard to be able to sit down and visualise or do guided imagery work. but for others, this is so incredibly helpful.
there’s also journaling and narrative rewriting, which basically involves writing from the perspective of your child self, or writing to them. this is also, for me personally, something i found super, super helpful.
and there’s also somatic therapy and body work, which basically involves techniques like breathwork or movement. you can find a lot of free guided somatic therapy on youtube!
there’s also the book the body keeps the score, which i found super relevant and helpful when you’re trying to figure out more about how early experiences shape you. and also the developing mind by daniel siegel.
being forced into a path that doesn’t reflect who you are, or carrying the belief that you’ll never be enough for anything you love most, is a wound that cuts deeply. especially when the voice that told you that you weren’t good enough came from someone you were supposed to trust. there’s something called self-discrepancy theory in psychology. it’s the gap between who we are and who we think we should be. and it causes a lot of stress, guilt, shame, and sadness. especially when that should was imposed on you by your parents, or culture, or basically was just not chosen. the pain becomes more complex.
the reason you might feel flat, or disconnected, or unmotivated is because this chronic identity suppression usually leads to low activity in the parts of your brain responsible for motivation and reward. and especially when your actions don’t match your inner values or desires, it can cause a lot of significant psychological stress. your brain is literally trying to resolve what it sees as a mismatch between your external obligations and your internal truth.
there are so many reasons for why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling, and why you have certain thoughts or certain beliefs and certain fears. but like i mentioned before, your brain is always capable of learning, relearning, breaking old habits and making new ones. you are allowed to be more than just one thing. the human experience is so complex, and i feel that no one is ever just one thing.
you can finish med school and honour your creative self. it doesn’t have to be all or nothing, and i know that’s a lot easier said than done, especially because something like med school takes an extreme amount of determinism and discipline and work and trusting yourself. the fact that you are here now in fourth year says so much about you yourself as a person, especially because it’s something that you’re not even completely passionate about. if anything, it makes it so much more incredible.
there’s studies in career adaptability that show that people hold multiple identities. doctor, lawyer, artist, writer, painter. they have stronger psychological resilience and life satisfaction when both parts are allowed to exist.
you’re not going to wake up suddenly one day with self-belief, but you can and are able to train your nervous system to trust your creative self. whenever you get that urge to create something, to make something, and you’re able to, then honour it. even if it’s literally something that takes five or ten minutes. even if it’s just a thought you have. a thought of, oh one day i would like to make that. let yourself be in that thought for a bit. ponder on it. let yourself be curious about that part of you that clearly is still inside you.
often those parts of you that come from your inner critique and the voice that says you’re not good enough are just trying to protect you from failure, rejection and disappointment. but these parts of you were born from something you experienced when you were a lot younger, and now you, with the years of experience you have, you can to reparent yourself, with kindness patience and love.
also just another book recommendation is no bad parts by richard schwartz and radical compassion by tara brach.
but yes, i really hope that even just a tiny part of this is something that resonates with you and will make sense to you or will help you in any way. sending you so much love. and if there’s any more specifics that you’re interested in or any specific parts that you want more resources in, please feel free to reach out any time!! <33
I am literally saving everything you're mentioning as you write, and I'd truly love to have an in depth conversation with you whenever you can (and if you're up for it)
It touched me, thank you for writing it so well! I love how delicately you weave the personal into the science behind.
__
It makes me wonder about how the experiences of our parents, grandparents and the other ancestors affect us. Transgenerational treasures and traumas passed down and showing in our DNA.
earlier i went through my old notes filled with unmet goals and i was mad at myself cause evey year i tried to change but i was always inconsistent, this was refreshing to read tysm ! (today’s my birthday and it’s really a bad day so much going on in the house but this made me feel alot better and made my day abit special)
ahhh happy birthday !! <3🎉 i’m so sorry to hear it’s not been the best so far (i can relate so much i don’t think i’ve ever had a birthday i’ve not cried on), i really do hope you’re able to find any small thing to make your day more special and more yours, and im beyond grateful to have made your day even the slightest bit better, sending you all my love angel !! 💌
Thanks Lina. Your posts are good to reflect on. It’s tough to really like and feel hopeful about somebody. When it comes to writing it’s joy to me. It’s a place I can fully expand myself. I have my own goals. Choose yourself right? Easy. It’s passion, it’s a connection to god, to others, and as I work through that stuff it’s like I’m deeply processing my life, I’m discovering things, grieving, laughing. I love it, when I find that sweet spot.
If you want to impose others standards on it than mine, I mean I’ll listen when it’s meant well, but this is mine, and it’s not “write a book” and maybe we just have never had this conversation. Also what he said was crazy mean
"it’s better to trip yourself up than to wait for the fall."
you nailed it. and it's such an ironic defense mechanism.
afraid of life deciding the fall, we choose to fail early. on our own terms.
but the same logic works in reverse.
choose the discomfort. take the risk. make the effort. actually try. and you also get to control pain. if you don't, life decides, the very thing you're trying to escape.
Needed this more today than ever. Thank you for writing this so beautifully.
thank you so much valentina! so happy this reached you <33
Beautifully written. Sometimes the universe sends stuff like this your way and it hits like a truck. Thank you.
Also, if possible, could you provide a link for the studies you mentioned?
thank you ! <3 here’s the links for the studies i referenced :)
early trauma alters stress regulation genes (NR3C1)
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19234457/
chronic family stress and cortisol gene methylation in children
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25056599/
family conflict and long-term epigenetic impact
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3235257/
stress impairs prefrontal cortex functioning
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19455173/
blunted dopamine response from past stress or depression
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3978009/
:)
Thank you!
If I ever read an article that summed up my life’s experience this is the one. I feel seen, comforted, and more encouraged to make the changes I need. I need to chart a better plan and reachable goals for myself
I don't typically think about having an “inner child.” But for an exercise after reading, I did. And now I feel my inner child is not the one holding me back. She is disappointed. She’s the one confused. She had so many dreams and goals and desires that all fell through due to this, that or the other. Excuses and possibly undiagnosed ADHD. I need to think deeper about this but I am so happy to have read your article and to have been given a shot of clarity.
hi ginna! thank you for such a lovely comment, i’m so happy to have reached you like this! i feel like the concept of an inner child is very different depending on the person, you can take it scientifically, you can take it spiritually, you can take it whichever way you feels right to you :) i’m so happy to hear this is something that you tried, and that it made even the smallest impact. i completely understand the struggles of the extra layer of difficulty that comes with being neurodivergent, especially being neurodivergent and going undiagnosed for so many years. it’s like learning a whole new part of yourself, even though it’s been with you this whole time. thank you again for taking the time to read this article with such intention <33
Hello Lina, thank you for your kind response. I don't know for sure about neurodivergence, but it would explain some things, even with my late mother. There are other issues with subtle symptoms that mimic others, such as mood swings and bouts of depression, which can also lead to the behaviors you wrote about. It's wonderful to find articles like yours that show a deep, sympathetic understanding. I look forward to reading more.
Thank you so much for this Lina, it's exactly where I am and it's scary. I'm so keen and ready to let go of old responses, but it's in those responses where safety has always been and I don't know where I'm going without them. I did feel very frustrated yesterday when I felt really anxious for choosing to do something I wanted to do, but felt I'd be criticised by someone else. If I stop pleasing those people where will that leave me? Will they reject me? It's all very well talking about nervous system regulation, but the truth is that change is terrifying in terms of bodily sensations, at least it is with me! Really grateful for your incisive and perceptive writing...Karen 💛
hi, karen :) i agree completely! it’s really easy to talk about the theory behind things and to read the books and the research, but living it is such a completely different experience, and like you said, sometimes making choices that is the better choice, that is the choice that’s going to help you, will feel like making a bad one. it’s so hard to get unstuck from these patterns, but it’s not impossible and the fact that you took a step to choose something for you, even if it meant being criticised, is so huge and such a beautiful thing to hear <3<3
It’s a balance. Just breathe, breathe, and breathe again and do it. I feel guilty sometimes when I want to do something but providing it’s a balance between work and play or our plan’s v their plan’s. We should not feel guilty or feel anxious and I have felt this way sometimes also Karen. It’s not nice and it’s seldom fair. We can’t always give our entire selfs away, we need to keep some of us and that includes sometimes doing the things we want/ need to do. Decent people should recognise this and accept that we all need some us time and we do not need to feel bad about it. 🌹
It's a very deeply ingrained survival response and although I know intellectually I've got as much right as anyone else to have my needs met, my body often panics or feels anxious. Sitting with that anxiety is so hard, but necessary. Thank you for your kind words 🙏
Ooof. That hit home. Over the years I’ve consumed much of Gabor Mate’s material & Bessel van der Kolk. Trying to turn the key myself on a thousand ideas, but it’s a heavy key and although I want to turn it, so far I’ve never found the courage/ strength. Nicely written again Lina.
the fact that you are trying to “turn the key” is courage and strength in itself. reading and learning the theory behind things is its own step, but living and experiencing it is completely different and so so much harder. it’s not a straight line, it’s a loop, a spiral of making progress, then taking two steps back, then feeling like you’re going back to old ways, and then suddenly feeling like you’re making progress again. it’s a whole up and down journey, but a journey nonetheless! <33
Hi Lina, as many others wrote, this piece hit the center piece of many different pain points. I was wondering how to face our fears though, because it’s so easy to blame ourselves, to be angry and confused, not knowing even who we want to be because the pressure of achieving (without meaning) always won. How do we face the fears? How do we talk to our inner selves? For example, I know I want to create, it has always been my passion. Thousand of ideas left unwritten or unanswered, because my parents forced me into med school saying that art would have never paid off, and that I would have never been a good artist cause I didn’t have the light in me to become one. How can I face something like that? I’m now in my fourth year of med school and it’s hella difficult to finish while aspiring for something different
you’re so right, it’s so easy to blame ourselves. if anything, it’s too easy. and i relate to you a lot. i was really eager and excited to pursue something creative for my degree. i had so many passions, painting, creative writing, but same as you, my parents forced me to pick something that was strictly academic. and although i did have an interest in science, the thought of going down the pipeline that a lot of my peers were going down, either transitioning into medical school or going into lab research, just wasn’t something that felt right to me. but i did finish the degree in the end, i think i did it more for myself than for their approval by the end of it.
everyone’s paths in life are so incredibly different and so incredibly unique. everyone’s experiences, what people have been through, are so unique to themselves. of course, there’s a lot of shared experiences, but the details and the nuances are individually yours. so the way that you face your fears, the way that you talk to your inner self, is also something that is incredibly uniquely yours.
but i can tell you how i did this through what personally worked for me. while i was studying my biochemistry degree, the areas i focused on were mostly to do with the brain and how our thoughts and actions and everything have an origin. i was really interested in finding the mechanics behind what makes us, us.
as i mentioned in the article, biologically, your inner child is made up from your limbic system, which stores emotional memories from early life, your prefrontal cortex, which is the grown-up part of you, the part that handles rational thinking and decision-making, and your default mode network, which is sort of like your sense of self. it’s involved in self-referential thinking and can often become overactive when we dwell on the past or the future.
the way i first came across the concept of the inner child wasn’t through a self-help book or anything spiritual. it was through science. and i became really curious about why my past experiences still affected me today, and about neuroplasticity, how your brain rewires and learns and creates habits and breaks habits. i think this gave me a very interesting platform to start exploring spirituality, because it made sense for the way that i process information. i have adhd, and i’m also just, in general, a very curious person who loves to know ins and outs on the ways that things work.
so when i went down the pipeline of spirituality and mindfulness and taoism etc., i found that when it comes down to it, all these things are interconnected in such a beautiful way. spiritually, your inner child is that version of you that you hold within yourself that’s still projecting past experiences into the present. and scientifically and biologically, it’s those areas in your brain that are still wired from those past events or past experiences.
there are many ways to begin inner child work. the most evidence-based methods that i can recommend are reparenting practices, which is the one that resonated with me the most. it’s basically speaking to yourself with kindness and love, the way that you would speak to a loved one or a close friend. for example, just saying out loud, you’re safe now, you don’t have to prove anything. or for me more specifically, when i catch myself thinking something rooted in the past, for example, oh, i shouldn’t send that message, maybe they’ll think i’m too much, i will verbally say out loud, no, you’re not too much. it’s okay to send that message. don’t worry. things like that.
another evidence-based method for inner child work is guided imagery or visualisation. it involves visualising your younger self and offering comfort, which activates the parts of your brain involved in empathy, memory, and self-compassion. there’s a lot of research to back this up. but again, like i said, everyone is so different. and for me, i think my adhd makes it hard to be able to sit down and visualise or do guided imagery work. but for others, this is so incredibly helpful.
there’s also journaling and narrative rewriting, which basically involves writing from the perspective of your child self, or writing to them. this is also, for me personally, something i found super, super helpful.
and there’s also somatic therapy and body work, which basically involves techniques like breathwork or movement. you can find a lot of free guided somatic therapy on youtube!
there’s also the book the body keeps the score, which i found super relevant and helpful when you’re trying to figure out more about how early experiences shape you. and also the developing mind by daniel siegel.
these ted talks are also super interesting!
https://youtu.be/uKHkq6S3kaU
https://youtu.be/gUV5DJb6KGs
and some youtube videos that helped me dig deeper in the subject
https://youtu.be/OTQJmkXC2EI
https://youtu.be/IRKq8MvRyOk
https://youtu.be/hZ0Wos8zusU
being forced into a path that doesn’t reflect who you are, or carrying the belief that you’ll never be enough for anything you love most, is a wound that cuts deeply. especially when the voice that told you that you weren’t good enough came from someone you were supposed to trust. there’s something called self-discrepancy theory in psychology. it’s the gap between who we are and who we think we should be. and it causes a lot of stress, guilt, shame, and sadness. especially when that should was imposed on you by your parents, or culture, or basically was just not chosen. the pain becomes more complex.
the reason you might feel flat, or disconnected, or unmotivated is because this chronic identity suppression usually leads to low activity in the parts of your brain responsible for motivation and reward. and especially when your actions don’t match your inner values or desires, it can cause a lot of significant psychological stress. your brain is literally trying to resolve what it sees as a mismatch between your external obligations and your internal truth.
there are so many reasons for why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling, and why you have certain thoughts or certain beliefs and certain fears. but like i mentioned before, your brain is always capable of learning, relearning, breaking old habits and making new ones. you are allowed to be more than just one thing. the human experience is so complex, and i feel that no one is ever just one thing.
you can finish med school and honour your creative self. it doesn’t have to be all or nothing, and i know that’s a lot easier said than done, especially because something like med school takes an extreme amount of determinism and discipline and work and trusting yourself. the fact that you are here now in fourth year says so much about you yourself as a person, especially because it’s something that you’re not even completely passionate about. if anything, it makes it so much more incredible.
there’s studies in career adaptability that show that people hold multiple identities. doctor, lawyer, artist, writer, painter. they have stronger psychological resilience and life satisfaction when both parts are allowed to exist.
you’re not going to wake up suddenly one day with self-belief, but you can and are able to train your nervous system to trust your creative self. whenever you get that urge to create something, to make something, and you’re able to, then honour it. even if it’s literally something that takes five or ten minutes. even if it’s just a thought you have. a thought of, oh one day i would like to make that. let yourself be in that thought for a bit. ponder on it. let yourself be curious about that part of you that clearly is still inside you.
often those parts of you that come from your inner critique and the voice that says you’re not good enough are just trying to protect you from failure, rejection and disappointment. but these parts of you were born from something you experienced when you were a lot younger, and now you, with the years of experience you have, you can to reparent yourself, with kindness patience and love.
also just another book recommendation is no bad parts by richard schwartz and radical compassion by tara brach.
but yes, i really hope that even just a tiny part of this is something that resonates with you and will make sense to you or will help you in any way. sending you so much love. and if there’s any more specifics that you’re interested in or any specific parts that you want more resources in, please feel free to reach out any time!! <33
I am literally saving everything you're mentioning as you write, and I'd truly love to have an in depth conversation with you whenever you can (and if you're up for it)
absolutely!! <33
I love this because i also started to translate into neuroscience because I love to understand what makes us, us, specifically from a creative pov
ah i’m so happy to hear because then my long winded message at least was relevant in some way to you haha!!
What an absolute rockstar
:))
It touched me, thank you for writing it so well! I love how delicately you weave the personal into the science behind.
__
It makes me wonder about how the experiences of our parents, grandparents and the other ancestors affect us. Transgenerational treasures and traumas passed down and showing in our DNA.
that’s also something i’m super interested in, really is a little scary to think about but also super fascinating!
earlier i went through my old notes filled with unmet goals and i was mad at myself cause evey year i tried to change but i was always inconsistent, this was refreshing to read tysm ! (today’s my birthday and it’s really a bad day so much going on in the house but this made me feel alot better and made my day abit special)
ahhh happy birthday !! <3🎉 i’m so sorry to hear it’s not been the best so far (i can relate so much i don’t think i’ve ever had a birthday i’ve not cried on), i really do hope you’re able to find any small thing to make your day more special and more yours, and im beyond grateful to have made your day even the slightest bit better, sending you all my love angel !! 💌
thank you so much lina and 🥹💗 u have no idea how much i love your crafts. you are truly amazing <3!
🫶🏼🫶🏼💌🫶🏼🫶🏼
Thanks Lina. Your posts are good to reflect on. It’s tough to really like and feel hopeful about somebody. When it comes to writing it’s joy to me. It’s a place I can fully expand myself. I have my own goals. Choose yourself right? Easy. It’s passion, it’s a connection to god, to others, and as I work through that stuff it’s like I’m deeply processing my life, I’m discovering things, grieving, laughing. I love it, when I find that sweet spot.
If you want to impose others standards on it than mine, I mean I’ll listen when it’s meant well, but this is mine, and it’s not “write a book” and maybe we just have never had this conversation. Also what he said was crazy mean
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:))) !
Posted words I liked 😘
Incredible it sinked deep in me when reading this article
<33
slayed! love this piece.
thank you!
Thank you, this is just what I'm trying to work on myself!
so happy this found you!! <33
"it’s better to trip yourself up than to wait for the fall."
you nailed it. and it's such an ironic defense mechanism.
afraid of life deciding the fall, we choose to fail early. on our own terms.
but the same logic works in reverse.
choose the discomfort. take the risk. make the effort. actually try. and you also get to control pain. if you don't, life decides, the very thing you're trying to escape.
either you choose your discomfort.
or it chooses you.
beautifully written. dense, brain-fueling stuff.
lovely piece, keep it up.
:)!! thank you!
Another brilliant one, Lina <3
thank you so much :))